The four parenting styles how they impact children

Parenting styles refer to a set of behaviors that parents use with their children. Behind these behaviors are a set of expectations that parents have towards their children. Every parenting style affects the psychological development and personality of the child.

Here are the four types of parenting styles, their signs, and how they impact a child. Make sure you go through the signs to understand if you are doing something harmful to your child’s development.


Authoritarian parenting style refers to parenting behavior that is strict and based on clear rules. Parents with an authoritarian style expect children to follow these rules without exceptions. Explanations for these rules are also not given. These characteristics mean that blind obedience is the basis of an authoritarian style. Parents with this style also list and enforce clear punishments. A child’s opinions are mostly ignored in favor of the rules created by the parent. So how does an authoritarian parenting style impact a child?

Well, children with authoritarian parents are more likely to develop self-esteem issues because they feel that their opinions are not valuable. They are less independent, develop behavioral issues, lack social skills, and can be insecure. They are also likely to have poor academic performance.

Here are some of the signs that you may be an authoritarian parent:

  • You have a “my way or the highway” attitude with your children.
  • You frequently respond with “because I said so” when your children ask questions about any rules.
  • You have high expectations from your children and feel that rules are more important than their feelings.

Well, that’s the “kahani every Indian ghar ki,” and as a child who grew up with authoritarian parents, I know the resounding pain of being underwhelmed and controlled all the time.


The term “Authoritative” sounds similar to “Authoritarian,” but they are very different in terms of parenting styles. An authoritative parent also creates clear rules for their children, but also listens to their child’s feelings and opinions. The rules created by an authoritative parent are flexible enough to allow a child’s personality to develop healthily. While expectations from children can be as high as with authoritarian parents, authoritative parents are also friendly and sensitive. Reasons are provided for every rule as well.

Children of authoritative parents are independent-minded, have good self-esteem and social skills, are happier, and less likely to have behavioral problems.

Here are some signs that you are an authoritative parent:

  • You try to make sure that your child feels loved and supported.
  • You always try to explain the reasons why you have created a rule for your child.
  • You consider your child’s feelings before enforcing a punishment.


Permissive parents adopt a laid back attitude towards behavioral rules. They are lenient, kind, and loving. However, they do not create and enforce clear rules for their children. They are quick to forgive if a child commits a mistake and rarely hold children accountable. A child’s feelings and opinions are highly valued, but a lack of structure results is a set of behavior in children.

Children of permissive parents are likely to develop problems with authority figures, have poor impulse control, and social skills. They are also likely to develop low self-esteem and have poor academic performance.

Here are some signs that you are a permissive parent:

  • You believe that you do not need to interfere with your child’s life at all.
  • You do not either create or enforce clear rules regarding behavior.
  • You are quick to forgive them even if they have done something wrong.


The neglectful parenting style, often called the uninvolved parenting style, means that parents neither have clear expectations from their children nor feel involved in a child’s life. Such parents have little knowledge of their child’s behaviors and personality. Such an uninvolved attitude may not be intentional, either. Such parents themselves face mental health problems such as depression. It will not be surprising to learn that children of neglectful parents have low self-esteem, are very impulsive, more likely to develop mental health problems as adults, and have behavioral issues.

Here are some signs that you have this parenting style:

  • You do not know much about your child’s hobbies or friends.
  • You spend very little time with your child.
  • There is little communication with them about how they are feeling about things.

Can you decide which parenting style you follow? These styles are not set in stone and can change if an effort is made. It is important to make sure that you seek professional help if your parental styles are impacting your child’s development. You probably knew that your attitudes undoubtedly influence your children, but these styles will highlight how you may be, consciously or unintentionally, negatively impacting your child’s well-being.