Recently, we’ve been sharing with you the experiences and tips from a lot of our users. We’re doing this so you can hear from people like yourself how best to put XNSPY to use. These are everyday people with everyday problems and the way they choose to use XNSPY is practical and very real. Hopefully you relate to them and know that you are not alone in your parenting or managing struggles.
Out of all the instances we’ve shared with you, this dad happens to be one of my favorites. His parenting skills are on point if you ask me. But before I go on about, listen to his story in this video:
When he sensed that his son was being unusual, this dad took on a cool as a cucumber approach. This dad should maybe give us tips on parenting because other than the problem at hand, here are a few things I learnt from his parenting style:
- Yelling at your kids is never productive
- Mobile monitoring was a covert, tactful way to understand his son’s problem
- Understanding his son’s state of mind was the number 1 priority
- Monitoring was used to understand problem and give counseling, not finger pointing
This dad was vehemently against smoking. He could’ve taken the other approach and yelled and blamed his son for breaking a basic rule. Cigarettes were contraband, and he could’ve punished his son for being irresponsible. Yet, he tried to understand that his child was simply trying to fit in because he was new to the school. Being as impressionable and innocent as he was, he thought that somehow smoking would be his way into the inner circle.
Take a look at this infographic from CDC to learn more about teenagers and tobacco use:
It is quite shocking to see that one half of middle school kids—kids as young as 12 or 13 years of age are using two or more tobacco products. It’s no wonder that this dad thought finding a pack of cigarettes in his son’s room was a big deal and an issue to be tackled very carefully.
What should you do if you find yourself in a similar situation? What should you do when you discover that your child is secretly a smoker?
First of all, take a note from this dad’s book and try to be cool. If you decide to blow up in your child’s face, you will have the opposite effect. Knowing how harshly you disapprove, your kids may want to keep on smoking as an act of rebellion. Instead, find out why they’ve picked up a cigarette and then counsel them through it.
Secondly, make sure that they spend their free time taking part in healthy activities like running, football, basketball or some other kinds of sports. When being part of a healthy lifestyle has been instilled in them because of what they do, they will never think to turn to cigarettes.
Moreover, it is important for you to tell them how uncool cigarette smoking is. Nothing good ever comes out of it… it does nothing but deteriorate one’s health and appearance. Why chose a habit that has absolutely no positive outcome?
Do you have any advice on parenting to give us? Let us know in the comments below and we’ll feature you on this blog, too!