A XNSPY father wrote to us with his son’s struggle with addiction. He wrote to us in great detail and explained what this situation feels like as a parent. We wanted to give amazing father the platform to express his story in the greatest detail. His story will be published in a three part blog so that he may explain all stages of his and his son’s journey as they made their life better. Here he is in his own words.
You can only imagine what I went through when I found my son lying in a heap on the hospital bed as his stomach was pumped because he had just overdosed on some sort of narcotics. All the while, his “friends” made a run for it because if they hadn’t, they would have faced the police and then their parents. These boys were only 16 years old, you see, so their fear and their utter stupidity came from their immaturity.
But none of that mattered to me. All that mattered to me was that my son should make it out alive. He did. We got through it. When he woke up, he was a mess. The guilt that he experienced from knowing that I had found out about his addiction should have cured him. But it didn’t. He spent that entire night crying and begging for forgiveness.
I suppose in some way, that was the first step to his rehabilitation. He had realized that he was in the wrong. And I had decided that he needed help. He was going to get clean, and I was going to help him through it. I had plenty of help along the way, but for this post, I’m going to tell you how I monitored him very closely to make sure he does not go back to his old habit. I used an iPhone spyware on his iPhone without telling him so that I could know exactly what he was up to at all times and know when he was lying to me. And boy was that helpful.
The thing is, anyone can fall prey to addiction. In fact, the younger you are the more vulnerable you are to this disease. In its simplest terms, addiction is said to have occurred when a child continues to use drugs even after knowing and suffering through its consequences. It is a continued use of that drug which develops into a compulsion. The urge for the drug becomes so strong that the child is unable to control it. The only way to curb that urge is by using more.
Usually, the road to addiction begins with experimentation. Kids use experimental drugs such as marijuana without actually wanting to get addicted. But soon after, they begin enjoying the effects of the drugs and keep on going back to it. They begin trying newer drugs to get better “highs”. Eventually, the narcotics begin affecting the user’s brain. In this case, the users now want to the drugs to feel normal again because not taking them makes them feel like they’re missing something.
I want to take this moment to tell you that the “urge” we’re talking about is not to be underestimated. It is the urge that ruins lives. The urge makes the user constantly think about the drug. It makes them feel like nothing in their life will be okay unless they use. They don’t pay heed to eating or sleeping. In fact, it becomes the most important thing in their lives, more than family or relationships or talents or anything else they held dear in their lives. All that matters to them now is that they curb that urge with another hit.
This is why drug addicts are so unpredictable. They would do anything—they would lie, cheat, steal, harm others, do whatever it takes to keep on getting their fix.
You should also know that addiction can change a person, sometimes for good. It changes how their brain functions, and these changes can be long lasting. It can even cause cognitive problems. Can you imagine a child not being able to think straight because their need for a substance is so strong?
It is so necessary for parents to have a full understanding of how addiction works because it is a disease. Parents need to understand it fully instead of blaming the child right away. Think of it this way. If your child would have diabetes, you would want to do as much research as you can to find out more about the disease, right? Think of addiction in the same way. Understand how it works and find out how you can help.
Stay tuned to hear more from this dad as he shares his experience with his son’s addiction.