Sometimes, it so happens that your child shows all the potential in the world when they are at home, but it doesn’t manifest into good grades at school. Your first assumption in this matter is that perhaps your child isn’t as bright as you had imagined. But that’s where you are wrong. Kids show potential in a lot of different ways, and what’s stopping them might not be their fault to begin with.
Your job as a parent is to find out exactly what it is that is stopping them. Get to the root of the problem, then figure out a way to resolve it. Asking your kids plainly is a good idea, but it is tricky because
- They might not want to share their problems with you,
- They might not know how to verbalize/express a problem they are having,
- They might not view trouble areas as problems at all.
Sometimes, a passive approach to parenting can be better off… such as using a parental control to play detective with your kids. Here are 4 ways to do so.
‘Always on their Smartphone’ Problem
A lot of parents that write to us complain about how their kids are practically always glued to their devices. The kids are quick to say that they’re using their phones and computers for homework. So how do you make sure they’re not lying? With your parental control, of course.
A good parenting app will let you go through their browsing history, so you can closely review the websites they’ve been visiting. Parents have typically found that kids spend more time on social media and gaming websites than they do on anything that is remotely ‘homework’.
‘Skipping School’ Problem
Then we’ve got parents who keep getting calls from their kid’s schools informing them that once again, their kids were a no show. If your child is going through a rebellious phase, they’re going to want to explore freedom, see how far they can push boundaries you set. Skipping school just happens to contain just the right amount of thrill.
A parenting app usually comes with a GPS tracker which can tell you exactly where they are. Creating geo-fences around the school will also help you be alerted anytime they enter or leave the school.
‘Bullies at School’ Problem
Speaking of skipping school. Another reason why your kid doesn’t want to go, is because they’re being bullied there. And studies have highlighted that bullying results in lower performance at school. And of course it would—bullying presents emotional turmoil. If you child isn’t happy, they won’t do well.
Here, you can check through your child’s Facebook chats with the parental control. You can point out the bullies, or read conversations they have with their friends to see what they are going through at school.
‘Wrong Crowd’ Problem
Many times, it may not be your child that is problematic but the company they keep. Friends have a lot of influence on you in your adolescent years. Groupthink in teenagers results in reckless behavior, lapse in judgment, and getting in trouble—such as experimenting with narcotics.
So, use your monitoring app to read through your kid’s text messages and see what they use it to talk to their friends about. A study highlighted that only 1 percent parents of teen drug abusers knew of their children’s habits. This means that 99% parents were completely unaware. That is where monitoring apps are useful.
Understand them with Parental Controls
Essentially, what parental controls are doing is giving you a deeper insight into your kid’s life. Of course you want your child do to well in school, and it troubles you when they don’t. But before you begin blaming their potential, or creating strict rules that achieve nothing, take some time to identify the problems in their lives. Find out what is stopping them. At the same time, know your child’s capacity as well and realize that they might be better at some subjects but not the other. And some kids simply learn at their own pace.