Recently, we asked a few parents why they use XNSPY for their kids. We got tons of responses, but a father’s struggle of looking after a daughter with social anxiety disorder inspired us the most. We reached out to him to share his experiences in more detail. The father and her daughter have chosen to stay anonymous, but here are his thoughts in his own words…
There’s something that has been on my mind, and I feel like this is the forum where my thoughts would be rightly represented. So I’m going to go right out the gate and say it: I think that parents that make the decision to monitor their kids through apps or GPS are horribly misjudged. People have gone out to say that I’m an intrusive parent, that’s I’m being too careful, or that my daughter is somehow going to turn out flawed because I’m giving her no privacy. I suppose that’s one way to look at it.
But if those advocates of privacy knew how helpful this monitoring app has been for me in terms of looking after my daughter, they’d stop viewing this in black and white. My 14-year-old has got social phobia. I’m not going to do into the gory details of what it is like to live with social anxiety disorder, but for her, even going to school is a feat. And there are times when everything is overwhelming, it ends up in panic attacks and shortness of breath and the like. And in those moments, she forgets to get on the school bus, or gets lost on her way home. I’ve seen this blog use infographics to make their point better, so here’s a quick chart that explains this condition for those that want to learn more about it:
For me as a single dad, not knowing whether my daughter is safe because I’m stuck at work makes me feel… well pretty darn incompetent. That is of course until I found this monitoring solution. When my daughter and I discovered this app, we almost felt like this was custom designed for our situation. Especially when I learnt that I could not only track her through GPS, but also record her surroundings to check in on her from time to time throughout the day. The most convenient part for me is that I can do all of this remotely—even when I’m at work. And it has been brilliant for her too, because she feel safer, and more assured knowing that I’ll find out the second something goes wrong.
My point is, why is parental monitoring being stigmatized in a time where it needs to happen the most? Why are parents that are concerned about their children’s whereabouts, peer groups and general well-being now labelled at invasive when they should be seen as responsible?
For me, parental controls were not something I used to see if my daughter was doing something wrong. I wasn’t using them to try and find out if she’s doing something mischievous—in fact I wish for a time where she could have a normal teenager’s life. Instead, parental controls were a way for me to watch over her, to make sure she was safe. And I wish more people would view technology for parents in this light.
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